Dear Lisa,

Dear Training,

As you may have noticed from perusing around this little dating advice blog is that much of my advice is directed to women.

Why? Well, the majority of the letters I receive are from women (although I do get quite a few from men as well.)

Strictly speaking, I focus more on dating and relationships, and don’t offer a lot of advice on things like pickup lines and how to become an endlessly sarging pickup artist. If that’s what you’re looking for, there are plenty of sites online to help you find more information on that particular topic.

Some of the sites are focused on things like getting more sex or pick up lines that won’t have women tossing drinks in your face, or laughing you out of the bar. Others teach (or try to teach) guys how to date women they might not otherwise have a chance with.

Some of the sites are good, some are not so good. In general, I’d recommend sites that have a more respectful view of women.

Yes, we know you want regular sex. What matters to us is how you go about getting it.

Be a nice guy. Nice guys finish naked too.

XO,
Lisa

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There is an important lesson to be learned: Men, when pressured (even if it’s only in their own minds) will retreat. Men left to their own feelings without pressure or expectation, will respond in ways so romantic we could never anticipate.

Here’s something about men and marriage that is lesser known. As terrified as they are of hearing that little word, most men are actually quite comfortable with the idea of getting married, and may already be considering you as their prime candidate. This hardly seems to make sense, and yet, it’s true. Most men are reluctant to talk about marriage before they are ready to bring up the subject. However, if they are the one to initiate the marriage talks, they’re usually very comfortable with the act of getting married! Once a man goes through the action of planning and executing his big, romantic proposal, he can hardly wait to actually get married. This is a huge contrast to men who get engaged because their girlfriend tortures them to agree to go engagement ring shopping until he’d do almost about anything (including getting engaged when he has no intention of getting married) to get her to shut up about marriage for just one second…

Just as a man who truly wants to ask you for a date will find a way to overcome everything from shyness to a foreign language, a man who wants to marry you will ask you himself. Don’t think for one second he needs you to remind him of how much he loves you, or how much his mother thinks you make a nice couple, or how cute/smart/athletically gifted your children might be. If he wants to marry you, he’s already thinking about those things. If he’s not already thinking about it, there’s absolutely nothing you can or should do to push him in that direction.

Last, look at it this way: Follow the methods in Stop Getting Dumped! and you’ll likely have a spontaneous, incredibly romantic engagement memory to share with your friends and grandchildren. Much, much better than an engagement ring begrudgingly offered up because you’ve been badgering the poor boy for months and he hesitantly caved after you and the jewelry store clerk had him cornered two-on-one.

XO,
Lisa

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© Copyright 2002-2008 by Lisa Daily. All Rights Reserved.

Dear Lisa,

Dear Chasing,

Wow, this guy sure does do a lot of traveling for somebody who is always broke.

You’d better sit down for this one, because I’m going to give it to you straight up: Your guy is sleeping with other girls. And he’s playing you.

The reason he feels like he can do anything and it is okay is because you are allowing him to treat you that way by putting up with it. The reason you never hear from him when he’s out of town is because he’s with another girl. Really. Nobody’s cell phone just goes dead on the weekends. You say that you are the one showing all the feelings, but that isn’t really true, is it? He’s showing you his feelings on a daily basis: he doesn’t care about you and doesn’t respect you.

You are a woman, not a doormat. Dump him; you deserve much, much better. This guy doesn’t just chase girls, he chases fire trucks.

XO,
Lisa

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Dating Coach and Relationships Expert Lisa Daily is the bestselling author of two dating books, Stop Getting Dumped!, How to Date Like a Grownup and the totally funny novel Fifteen Minutes of Shame. You’ve seen her everywhere from Entertainment Tonight to the HITCH movie DVD.