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Advice for Dating: Girls Love a Romantic Soundtrack

CAN BACKGROUND MUSIC UP YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING A DATE? A new French study reported in Psychology of Music found that women are much more likely to agree to a date when romantic music is playing in the background.

How did the study work?

French researchers studied 87 18-20 year old women. The women were asked to wait in a waiting room — some listening to a love song, others listening to a neutral song. They were then asked to rate two different food products by a man rated extremely average-looking by another group of women, “Antoine.” (Yep, that’s a prize you don;t really want to win.)

The researchers chose ‘Je l’aime à mourir’, a very well-known love song by French songwriter Francis Cabrel which, loosely translated means, “I loved her to death,” You can see Francis working his magic here. For similar American mushiness, I’d recommend Marc Cohn’s “True Companion.”

“Antoine” had the task of asking out the 87 women, all with the same generic pick-up line, “My name is Antoine, as you know. I think you are very nice and I was wondering if you would give me your phone number. I’ll phone you later and we can have a drink together somewhere next week.”

What did they find?

The romantic love song in the waiting room almost doubled average Antoine’s chances of getting a woman’s phone number — 52% of participants agreed to a date while under the influence of Francis Cabrel, while only 28% of women listening to the neutral song offered their digits.

How can music affect dating so dramatically?

There are a variety of theories floating around about that one. It’s possible that the romantic music acts as sort of a prime for romantic feelings — after all, we’ve all been conditioned with thousands of romantic movies with music to match. It’s also possible that the music induces an emotion that makes us more open to romantic possibilities. And, the researchers had already learned that playing romantic music in a flower shop entices men to spend more money. That’s right, women aren’t the only ones turning to romantic mush when we hear the first strains of At Last. (My own personal kryptonite, btw.)

How can we use the study to get more dates?
Well, if you’re working up the courage to flirt with a woman you meet at a nightclub or party, you might just want to wait until a romantic ballad is playing. If you’re planning on bringing a date back to your apartment later, be sure you’ve got a romantic soundtrack at the ready. And if you’re looking to put the spark back in your long-term relationship, you might try playing the song you had your first dance to.

Find out more ways to make your home more appealing to your dates and which scents attract the opposite sex.

XO,

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A lot of women write to me and ask, “How can I get my ex boyfriend back”?

My first question is always, “Why do you want him back?”

After all, unless one of you has been abducted by aliens or struck in the head by lightning, you’ll still be the same ‘ol two of you with the same ‘ol problems. Whatever it was (jealousy, insecurity, cheating, boredom) that broke you up in round one (or round thirty-seven) will likely still be there. Right?

But what if you really, really, really want him back? Or what if the connection you have is so amazing, so special, so meant to be that you can’t imagine your life without him? Or what if you broke up over something stupid, or a misunderstanding, and you just know it can work out if only your guy would give you one more chance?

Sometimes, that’s all we need. A second chance.

A lot of relationship experts will tell you that trying to get back together with an ex is futile. But I will say, in my experience, that there are some things you can do that can increase your chances. And sometimes a couple can over come their past, and find happiness together.

If that’s what you’re looking for, you might want to consider trying this: The Magic of Making Up , which promises to tell you exactly how to win him back. (And better yet, if it doesn’t work, you get your money back.)

To your happily ever after,

XO,

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Need Advice for Dating? Dating Coach and Relationships Expert Lisa Daily is the bestselling author of two dating books, Stop Getting Dumped!, How to Date Like a Grownup and the totally funny novel Fifteen Minutes of Shame. You’ve seen her everywhere from Entertainment Tonight to the HITCH movie DVD.

I have a romantic wardrobe dilemma.

In just a few weeks, I’ll be heading down to Key West with my sweetie for a thank-gawd-I-finally-finished-my-new-book celebration weekend. (Well, either that, or a How-can-I-even-think-about-drinking-this-banana-daiquiri-on-the-beach-when-I-still-haven’t-finished-my-new-book weekend — I’ll let you know.) Yes, I know what drinking banana daiquiris says about me. But I digress.

So what kind of pajamas does one take on a romantic weekend to a steamy destination? Generally, I’m not a fan of anything scratchy or binding, as far as bedwear goes. I’m also not a fan of the ratty t-shirt look, or the camisole and boy shorts (impossible to keep them from riding up), and I only do men’s pajama bottoms for charity events. I prefer soft little cotton chemises — comfy and uber-girly at the same time.

I was browsing a women’s pajamas site last night, trying to figure out my options. (And believe me, there are lots of options available when you’re in the market to buy women’s pajamas.)

What I realized, however, was that all of the womens pajamas that appealed to me were pretty much the exact same thing that I already have in my closet.

Like this one ——————————->

But the thing about vacations, even mini-vacations, is in getting out of your normal routine. So maybe, instead of my usual darling nighties, I should try something different.

Like not packing any pajamas at all.

What do you think?

XO,